The 21st Century Man

Life in the 21st century is definitely unlike any other. A virtual reality has seemed to cloud our real reality. First came mobile phones, providing us with the ability to contact each other no matter where we may be. Then came internet instant messaging and texting, creating an alternate dimension where people could communicate without hearing or seeing each other, allowing them to inevitably say things they otherwise wouldn't have the courage to say or do in person.Online dating is a perfect example of this.

I can't even begin to estimate how many men, (achem) I mean boys, I have spoken to online via online dating sites. Out of that tumultuous sea,  I'd say about half never even followed up with their word to get in touch with me-not even by a mere text. Of the other half, about a third of them end up drunk-text/dialing me around 2-4am, and a few simply text "morning" and "hey" sporadically throughout the day. Really, guys?! Do you really think that will ever be successful? Is that how you get something done in life? I mean, when you apply for a job, and get an email or call for an interview, do you reply to the email with a "morning" and the call with a drunk dial?

Anyway, without venting further off track, what I'm trying to get to is this. When it comes to girls and dating, boys in the 21st century apparently lack chutzpah. What is chutzpah, you ask? Pronounced with an "h" roll of the throat, wikipedia defines it as "the quality of audacity, for good or for bad". In other words: guts, courage, balls!! Yes, guys, balls. Similar to the ones you have-or should anyway. So what is it that prevents these guys from being forward or somewhat ballsy?! Are they shy, scared, playing hard to get? Hey, male specimens of NYC, you aren't women! You are supposed to be MEN. You know, that word "man", that comes form the other word "manly". Yea, what happened to all that manliness? You saving it all up for a special day?

Many friends of mine think that I intimidate men. That I perhaps scare them away with my confidence and chitzpah.  I say, I just haven't found a man manly enough to handle me. When did men stop being manly and start being so scared? I'm not going to intentionally be mean or hurt you, or even beat you up. I'm just looking for strong man who will actually make me feel like a woman. Are you out there?!

You say I should write a book?!

For years now, I have been the guinea pig to the NYC "Jew-York" dating scene. Wanting to keep in family tradition and one day have a Jewish family, I have cornered myself into searching for the impossible: a good looking, intelligent, mature, respectful, kind, family-oriented, caring, talented, knowledgeable, athletic, warm, successful single Jewish man open to commitment. I have entertained my friends with stories that range from the ordinary to the bizarre, and even to the "I wish I were wasted so I didn't have to fully witness or remember."  I have been begged to record these adventures, for others to learn but mostly for amusement. Finally, I have decided it's time. I'm ready. To all my friends, fellow single ladies (and men!), Jewish or not, here's to the beginning of documenting my determined journey full of excitement, fear, hope, anger, longing, heartbreak, and love.... yes, love. Well, I think it's love...